Saturday, February 9, 2013

The Virtuous Cycle of Wellbeing

Look Good  = Feel Good

For many of us it’s an uncomfortable truth that in every walk of life we are judged by our appearance.  We’ve all heard the statistics confirming that  55% of first impressions are based on how a person looks.  

Ironically, there is often real contradiction in our attitudes to how we look.  On one hand taking an active interest is increasingly viewed as superficial and thus not the stuff of more cerebral women.  Yet, on the other hand we all take some degree of interest in our physical appearance, spending more money than ever on fashion, make up and beauty.  

Whatever your view dressing and grooming are basic life essentials – we all do it. So if we are going to do it shouldn’t we do it well?  After all, our wellbeing depends upon it. 

When we look good we feel good.  In turn we become more confident, we exude more energy, we smile more, speak with more conviction and stand taller.  Without even realising it we attract positive feedback, become more approachable and more memorable. Consequently this makes us feel great and so a virtuous cycle of positivity, wellbeing and success begins.   

When we throw in the fact that the choices we all make about 
our appearance are a strong form of self-expression that give secret (but loud) 
signals to others about how we feel and how we expect to be treated 
then our appearance becomes an even more powerful tool. 

When I say ‘how we look’ I don’t want this to be confused with our ideals of physical beauty, of a size 10 figure or a hugely expensive wardrobe. What I am talking about is how we, how you project your own and unique style.  

So, how do you kick start that virtuous cycle of wellbeing?

Illuminate With Colour - Depending on our eye, hair and skin colour we all reflect certain colours well onto our face; what I call the ‘colours that love us’. Colours that love you will make your eyes pop with colour, and sparkle while your skin will glow and appear shadow or wrinkle free.  Colours that don’t love you do the opposite by sapping natural radiance, making you look tired, older and sallow.

Colour Makes You Smile - Others Smile With You !

Scientifically speaking there are 6 key dominant colour types though each of us is a unique blend of 3 colour attributes:  Tone, Depth and Clarity.  Some of us are ‘Clear’ and contrasting, while some of us are ‘Soft’ and muted.  There are ‘Deeps’ just as there are ‘Lights’ while we could also be either dominantly ‘Warm’ or ‘Cool’. 
Perhaps you’ve been in a situation where you’ve been asked if you feel ok when you feel fine or you always receive compliments when you wear a certain dress.  My bet is much of this is about the colour and what it is doing for you.  

Top Tip:  Without wearing make-up experiment with clothes from your wardrobe by holding them under your chin.  You’ll be amazed at how some colours illuminate you, giving you a natural radiance while others drain you.   Or book me for some colour coaching!

Fit & Flatter - You clothes should fit you well, follow the natural lines of your body and be neither too big nor too small.   Either way always try to create the illusion of an hourglass unless you are wearing a very trend led outfit.

Top Tip:  Always finish your clothing lines at the narrowest points of your figure. 

Be Brave With Colour 
Style Personality – while it sounds obvious what you may not full appreciate is that your wardrobe and grooming choices are determined by your innate style personality.  

There are 6 dominant style personalities; Creative, Dramatic, Romantic, Natural, Chic and Classic.  We make style mistakes by trying to defy our inner style; by copying the style of others or by being determined to embrace what’s in fashion. Getting it wrong saps your confidence, makes you feel uncomfortable and before you know it you’ve lost your voice. Find your own style, design your wardrobe around it and not only will you save money, time and effort but feel fantastic too.

Top Tip:  Embrace your default style approach. If you want to relax in comfortable clothes with minimum fuss then it's likely you are a ‘Natural’ but dream of dressing it up with a corsage then you’re a ‘Romantic’.  Or book me for a style consultation!

Currency – No, this is not about budget.  This is about fashion versus style. Both are great but ‘style’ is unique to you and has longevity whereas fashion is how you update your style to stay current and youthful. 

Top Tip:  While it is wise to invest in trends that will have longevity the quickest way to update an outfit is to inject a dash of fashion.  If in doubt consider your look in terms of 2/3rd style:1/3rd fashion – the fashion element might be your makeup or your hair style or a dash of red in your tights, as above.

So as 2013 knocks on our wardrobe doors there’s no better time for a style spring clean.   Invest some time in what your style is saying about you. Hit the shops or your wardrobe and promise yourself that every day you will look in the mirror and say ‘you look wonderful today’. Remember, your wellbeing depends on it.

If you feel you need a bit of support, guidance or help with your body, colour or wardrobe confidence then I am here to help, offering one to one and group Colour and Style Coaching sessions.  Give me a call or drop me a line.  Or if you just have a question let me know.

Lady Mirror Ball xxx

Mirror Ball Studios

note:  this article was written by me especially for Inspirational Women Magazine and was first published in January 2013.  

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